We all know how hard it is to master how to tell a girl you like her WITHOUT Getting Friend Zoned. They say that the biggest fear in the world is public speaking, I reckon the SECOND biggest is revealing how you feel about someone.
It’s like jumping out of a plane, hoping that the parachute will open and that you won’t crash and burn in case she rejects you!
So how can you guarantee that telling her you like her won’t have her running for the hills? Whilst I can’t give you a 100% guarantee she will feel the same , what I do want to do in this video is show you strategically how you can start to reveal your feelings for her without scaring her away!
HOW TO TELL A GIRL YOU LIKE HER WITHOUT GETTING FRIEND ZONED!
I’m Renee Slansky for The Attractive Man and it’s my job as your coach to make you the most confident and desirable man that you can be.
If you are currently dating a girl that you really like or maybe have been trying to get it across to that friend of yours that you keep hanging out with , that you really like her ….
Women can get cold feet just like you guys , and sometimes we get scared about our feelings or the possibility of a relationship because of our past experiences . So here are my tips to help you communicate your feelings to her in a way to minimize rejection and increase your chances of having those feelings reciprocated .
START TO TEST THE WATERS A LITTLE BY SENDING HINTS
The very first thing you need to do is gather as much information as you can about how she could possibly feel before you go all in. It’s like seeing how cold or deep the water is before diving into the pool!
Some basic ways to drop hints would be complimenting her in more specific detail eg :
“I think your eyes look beautiful today” , as opposed to “you look hot!” or “ I think your really great at that , you can tell your creativity is a strength , it makes you glow.”
Remember the little things she has mentioned and then do something about it! Ifs she mentioned that she never has time to eat a proper meal because of a stressful deadline , then send an Uber Eats meal to her house as a surprise
Start asking her about her future plans and include her in yours subtly with phrases like “we “ and “us”
After dropping hints , you want to watch for her response. Does she pull away? Does she laugh compliments off or does she blush and return them? Does she change the subject when you start to talk more about the future ?
This will help give you an indication if she is on the same page or may need a little more time.
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SHOW HER FIRST BEFORE YOU TELL HER
Actions will always speak louder than words and whilst women love to hear what you have to say , ultimately it’s what you do that will either win her over or not. If you just up and tell her one day that you like or love her , but you don’t actually show it , chances are she will be doubtful , confused or just flat out reject you .
Now the easiest way you can do this without having to spend lots of money , buy 10 puppies or build a disney castle , is to simply learn what her love language is. Guys is you haven’t read Dr Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages , then stop , collaborate and listen. You need to , it will literally change everything you need to know about love and women.
Basically there are 5 ways in which we give and receive love , which are :
Acts of Service ( doing stuff for her )
Quality time ( spending time with her and being present and not on your phone )
Physical Touch ( affection , kissing and sex )
Gifts ( buying her things she appreciates )
Words Of Affirmation ( telling her positive things , compliments etc)
Now if you can work out which way she feels loved and then focus on fulfilling that love language , I guarantee that she is going to really start to becoming attached to you!
CHOOSE THE RIGHT MEDIUM FOR YOU – TEXT OR FACE TO FACE
The next step is deciding how you are going to do it ! Are you both someone who has big deep and meaningful conversations through text? Are emojis your thing? Or is it something that she would appreciate you saying face to face?
There is no right or wrong answer , although whilst telling here face to face is the scariest , it is usually the best way to do it . That way you can really see how she reacts and if it’s possible it means you can seal the deal with a kiss!
CHOOSE THE RIGHT TIMING
Next you want to choose the right timing , this is a somewhat intimate thing to do and really is the turning point of whether it makes or breaks your new relationship. So don’t do it when you are both drunk , stressed , fighting or in a noisy place !
Be a little strategic about the timing but also be open to the right opportunity when it comes along , whether that be when you are laughing and walking in the park , after you have just been intimate or maybe when she is being a cutey and you just have to tell her there and then.
When things aren’t too orchestrated it means you won’t be as stressed out , but at the same time at least be aware of when there might be a better time to tell her! If she is super stressed out or maybe in a bad mood then it’s probably not the right time to tell her.
SAY IT LOUD AND CLEAR
Ok guys here is where you have to jump out of the plane . There is no turning back now! Truth is if you have done all the above steps first you should at least know if she is starting to feel the same and when the right time is to say it.
Now that you are ready , do it boldly! This doesn’t mean yelling it at her , it means just owning your words and your feelings . Keep it simple , clear amd authentic and stay away from cheese and long speeches.
Simple phrases like “ I think I’m falling for you “ or “ I really like you , in every way” are complete heart melters and come across really romantic and genuine. For me when my man told me , we were literally having a conversation in a pub with his family and friends and I simply stated “ I’m in love with you, to which he responded “ I’m in love with you too .” It was simple , to the point and bold , but it was the absolute truth!
EXPECT THE BEST , BUT PREPARE FOR THE WORST
Probably not what you wanted to hear , but as I said I can’t make this entirely risk free . Truth is love will always involve some unknown and lack of control and that my friends is why we like it! It’s important to remain optimistic because whatever you focus on is what comes into fruition .
And if you have started to test a few things before hand then you should have a pretty good indication if she is feeling the same way or not before you tell her. But a little dose of reality helps to keep things realistic and not set ourselves up for unmet expectations .
If she doesn’t feel the same way then at least you have your answer and you can decide whether or not it is worth to keep pursuing her. Rejection happens to all of us and if you haven’t already I suggest you watch our other video on tips to handle rejection which I will link in the bio.
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HERE’S THE RECAP:
Start dropping some hints and watch for her response
Show her first before you tell her
Choose the right way to say it , in person is usually best!
Choose the ideal timing
Say it loud and clear
Hope for the best but expect she may not feel the same way.
The Attractive Man is an international dating company owned by a professional dating coach, Matt Artisan. He is dedicated to revealing proven conversation techniques in order to transform the dating lives of those who want to go after their dream girl.